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Myths vs. Facts

There’s a lot you need to know about being a foster or adoptive parent, and there are a lot of myths out there. Read on to separate the myths from the facts.

Myth: “I don’t have any children, and to be a foster parent you need parenting experience.”

Fact

Not true! Many of our foster parents do not have children of their own. They are responsible people who have made a commitment to children and demonstrate an ability and willingness to learn all they can about parenting.

Myth: “I could never be a foster parent because I’m not married and don’t make a lot of money. I don’t even own my own house.”

Fact

There are no such requirements. Foster parents can be married, single, partnered, or divorced; a homeowner or a renter. The only financial requirement is that you have enough of an income to support yourself and your family aside from the reimbursement you get to care for foster children.

Myth: “Foster parents have to stay at home with the children, and I work full time. I guess that excludes me.”

Fact

No, it doesn’t. Many foster children attend day care while foster parents work outside the home. However, we respect a child’s natural schedule of eating, sleeping and waking, therefore we ask that our foster parents only work first shift so they are able to maintain those natural patterns.

Myth: “My children are grown and out of the house. I’m too old to be a foster parent.”

Fact

There is no age requirement (other than you must be at least 21). Many “empty nesters” find foster parenting to be a rewarding experience.

Myth: “Foster children have been abused so much that they’re beyond repair. I wouldn’t really be making a difference, anyway.”

Fact

Children are amazingly resilient. Foster parents can make the difference by providing a structured, nurturing environment. We need to remember that these children will grow up to be adults in our society. How we respond to their needs now will largely determine what kinds of citizens they will be in the future.

Myth: “Once I take in a foster child, I’m on my own without any help.”

Fact

Children need stability, and SaintA offers foster parents support to help maintain children on an even keel. For starters, before you even take in your first child, you will receive training to prepare you and your family. And there are also ongoing training and opportunities to network with other foster parents. Respite care is available for those times you need a break.

Myth: “I would have to provide medical insurance for a foster child in my home.”

Fact

Foster parents do not pay any of a child’s medical expenses, other than over-the-counter medicines and supplies.

Myth: “Teenagers are more difficult to parent.”

Fact

Teenagers aren’t perfect, but who is? Teenagers desire someone who can provide a stable environment and who truly cares about their well-being and future. They need someone like you to be a positive role model. And, again, we offer you assistance throughout your fostering experience.

Myth: “I will get too attached and will have my heart broken.”

Fact

Love for and attachment to the children in your home does occur. As a foster parent, you will have the ability to provide a positive influence and make a lifetime of difference for the child and the birth family. Your heart will grow with love for each child you take into your home. And many foster children maintain some contact – such as an occasional phone call — with loving foster parents over the years.

Myth: “There’s too much red tape and bureaucracy involved in adopting a child from foster care.”

Fact

Congress has streamlined the foster care adoption process through enactment of the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997. This law ensures that children in foster care who cannot be reunited with their birth parents are freed for adoption and placed with permanent families as quickly as possible.

Myth: “Adopting a child from foster care is expensive.”

Fact

Many prospective parents do not know that adopting children from foster care is virtually free, while private or international adoptions can cost anywhere from $4,000 to $30,000 or more. A growing number of companies and government agencies offer adoption assistance as part of their employee benefit packages, including time off for maternity/paternity leave, financial incentives and other benefits. In addition, Congress has made federal tax credits available for foster care adoptions to help offset required fees, court costs, legal and travel expenses. Access IRS Form 8839, or call 800-829-3676 or visit www.irs.gov for more information.

Now that you know the truth about foster care, SaintA is ready to help you get started. Contact us today for answers and encouragement!

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